At 28 yrs. old I have finally come to terms with my past relationship with him. Basically, I have stopped blaming him for all of my problems. He was such an easy target. He really dicked us over and gave me the best excuse to act out, use drugs, etc. People felt sorry for me because my dad left me and didn’t even try to have a relationship with me.

I can now accept that my problems are my own and a lot of things that I do are things that he did. It’s wierd, but I can understand what he did now.

I’m not sure, but a counselor brought up to me that maybe he stopped his relationship with me because he knew that I would be better off without him (doubt it, but a possibility.)

He tries to contact me sometimes, but I never respond. Mostly due to loyalty to my sister and mom. They are my family, including my step-dad (who I call dad), because I would never risk their love for a relationship with my father.

My step-dad stepped right in there and became my father. Unbelievable, but he did. Love him to death.

ROCK ON STEP-FATHERS! KNOW THAT WHEN YOU MARRY INTO A FAMILY YOU ARE ALSO BECOMING A FATHER TO THE CHILDREN. TREAT THEM AS YOUR OWN AND THEY WILL LOVE YOU IN RETURN (AT LEAST IN MY EXPERIENCE)!

DON’T GIVE UP ON THEM, THEY ARE HURTING AND CONFUSED. STABILITY, PATIENCE, AND COMMITMENT WILL ALLOW THEM TO TRUST YOU.

My light is my step-father.